Two weeks ago, my boyfriend of 6 months decided he no longer wanted to be in a relationship.
We live about an hour and a half apart, and he travels a lot for his job as an entertainer, so needless to say, we didn't get to spend a whole lot of time together, and the time we were together wasn't "real life." It was roadtrips, hotels, a new city every weekend. It wasn't cooking dinner and renting a DVD. It started quickly. Our first date lasted about 6 hours, and he couldn't wait 20 minutes before texting me on my drive home that he already missed me. Yep, I was that girl, I was the silly one who fell hard. And fast. I was hopelessly smitten.
His 30th birthday party was last week, and I, being the diligent and thoughtful girlfriend I thought he would appreciate, spent over a month and $200 planning a surprise birthday for him, his family, and 40-50 of his closest friends. A week before this shindig was supposed to go down, he broke up with me. Why, you ask? Great question, because I sure didn't get an answer!
Anyway, I emailed his mother to make sure she could make arrangements to get him to the party on time for the surprise, and she cancelled it. I guess she was more on my side than his and didn't think his irrational behavior should be rewarded. Go, Mom? Because I had sent out the e-vites, I had to send out the cancellation notices, too. A friend of his texted him that his surprise birthday party was cancelled.
I'm sure you can guess what happened next... Go ahead. Guess.
If you guessed he felt like a jerk, and texted me that he was sorry and that he loved me and appreciated the effort -- You're right.
So, you can see why I am still confused as to why, two days after that little conversation, was the last time I have talked to him. He ignored my one phone call and two texts (that was all I was going to give him. Why put in the effort?)
I guess this is his way of avoiding the issue and becoming single by default.
I suppose the thing that is making me feel the worst about this whole situation is the whole non-closure thing. I won't try and psychoanalyze him, because irrational and insane behavior can't be rationalized. But it still hurts.
Which is why it's so great to have amazing friends to take me out for karaoke and shots. :)
We live about an hour and a half apart, and he travels a lot for his job as an entertainer, so needless to say, we didn't get to spend a whole lot of time together, and the time we were together wasn't "real life." It was roadtrips, hotels, a new city every weekend. It wasn't cooking dinner and renting a DVD. It started quickly. Our first date lasted about 6 hours, and he couldn't wait 20 minutes before texting me on my drive home that he already missed me. Yep, I was that girl, I was the silly one who fell hard. And fast. I was hopelessly smitten.
His 30th birthday party was last week, and I, being the diligent and thoughtful girlfriend I thought he would appreciate, spent over a month and $200 planning a surprise birthday for him, his family, and 40-50 of his closest friends. A week before this shindig was supposed to go down, he broke up with me. Why, you ask? Great question, because I sure didn't get an answer!
Anyway, I emailed his mother to make sure she could make arrangements to get him to the party on time for the surprise, and she cancelled it. I guess she was more on my side than his and didn't think his irrational behavior should be rewarded. Go, Mom? Because I had sent out the e-vites, I had to send out the cancellation notices, too. A friend of his texted him that his surprise birthday party was cancelled.
I'm sure you can guess what happened next... Go ahead. Guess.
If you guessed he felt like a jerk, and texted me that he was sorry and that he loved me and appreciated the effort -- You're right.
So, you can see why I am still confused as to why, two days after that little conversation, was the last time I have talked to him. He ignored my one phone call and two texts (that was all I was going to give him. Why put in the effort?)
I guess this is his way of avoiding the issue and becoming single by default.
I suppose the thing that is making me feel the worst about this whole situation is the whole non-closure thing. I won't try and psychoanalyze him, because irrational and insane behavior can't be rationalized. But it still hurts.
Which is why it's so great to have amazing friends to take me out for karaoke and shots. :)
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